I Will NOT Congratulate You

Discalaimer:  I am not a psychologist.

This will piss some off.....

First and foremost, I am a person of addiction (and while I'm confessing, I am also naive to a lot of the things I speak of).  I have an addiction to cigarettes.  Bad, gross, deadly habit--I know.  I will quit at some point and when I do, I want no one to pat me on the back.  Why?  Because its a stupid decision I have made and it's my responsibility to get myself out of it.  Plain and simple.

People who "get clean"..... My opinion, I don't understand why we should praise someone for kicking a drug, alcohol/porn/eating disorder habit.  You are the one who got "addicted."  According to Dr. Phil and other mental health gurus, these "addictions" are diseases.  I disagree.  You started it, not your body.  Many will argue that eating disorders are truly a disease and I can agree with that so pretend I didn't say eating disorder.

So when you're addicted to something that means that it interferes with your life on several levels. It causes you to obsess over whatever it is and that has a negative impact on you as a person, your loved ones, and your job. How is this appealing in the first place? I can kind of understand that maybe you thought it would be fun to just try something once but seriously? It's not good for you and I'm sure it's tempting to do again, so you do and that's how it starts.  Remember -- You started this on your own.

A lot of people want to "escape" something so they turn to drugs and alcohol.  Deal with your problems.  Most of us do and do so without the use of drugs. It seems like a lot of people think they are the only ones who go through stuff.  I realize that the issues I have in my life are probably not anything compared to others' but they are mine, theirs and their's and that's just how it goes.  I wish that all people only had my silly little problems.  I think we'd be a happier place if that were the case but it's not.  I also believe that people create their own problems, just like people teach others how to treat them.  If you think wherever you are in your life is not good and/or the people in it are not good for you, then why is it so hard to move on?  Get a pair and move on.  Change your place of residence, change your appearance, even change your name if you have to--Just move away from the toxic environment!  Blah!

So, when people finally kick a drug or alcohol habit, it seems that they always want some sort of praise.  Oh wow!  You've stopped doing drugs and started actually living your life how you're supposed to.  Congratulations.  Do you want a medal for screwing up then getting back on track? Guess what?  I've never effed up my life and severed ties and trust with the people I love because nothing is that important.  My point is -- If you got caught up in something you're not proud of and get out of it then good for you but I will NOT praise you for it. The End.

I think my next will be about women who stay in abusive relationships.....hmmm